Last updated November 6, 2026
Community Standards
Sonderly is invitation-only, but an invitation isn't a guarantee of good behaviour. These are the few things every member agrees to, so that saying no here costs nothing.
Rule 1
Adults only — 18 and over
Sonderly Connection Network is for adults aged 18 or older. You must confirm that you meet this requirement before joining. An invitation does not make an exception. If you believe a member is under 18, report it privately or contact the team. Confirmed underage accounts are not eligible for membership and will be removed.
Rule 2
A no is a no
An introduction happens only when both people say yes. If someone declines, doesn't reply, or asks for space, that is the answer. You don't ask again, and you don't ask through a third member.
Rule 3
Don't pursue someone who has said no
No repeat messages, no turning up where they are, no passing a note along through a mutual friend. If a member has declined you, Sonderly won't put you in front of them again.
Rule 4
No harassment, no pressure, no extraction
No bullying, threats, unwanted advances, slurs or discrimination. No pitching, recruiting or asking a member for a favour the moment you meet them. People are here to be useful to each other, not to be used.
What we expect of you
- Arrive as yourself. Use your real name and don't misrepresent who you are or what you do.
- Keep what you learn here inside the network. A member's private answers, address and contact details are never for sharing.
- Be useful before you ask. Sonderly works because people give first.
- Use the tools rather than handling it yourself. Block, report, or tell us — we'd rather hear it from you.
What happens if a rule is broken
- A first concern is raised with the member privately, in writing, by a small safety team. Other members are never told.
- If it happens again, or the behaviour is serious, the membership is paused while we look into it.
- If it doesn't stop, the membership ends. Reports, blocks and our own records are what we weigh, not someone's standing.
- You can block a member at any time. Blocked members can't see you, can't be matched with you, and aren't told you blocked them.
A first concern is raised privately with the member. Nobody is judged in public, and the person who raised it is never named.
If something isn't right
You can block a member from their profile at any time, report behaviour in private, or tell us directly. We would much rather hear it from you than find out later.